Ok, I admit it. I stole most of this blog post from a Facebook note I wrote a year ago; but it still manages to hold relevance.
I’ve noticed recently that quite a few of my younger Facebook friends, as well as some that are closer to my age, put a lot into relationships; they get really serious fast, and are devastated when it’s over. So, I wrote this to kind of explain my views on everything.While it may seem kind of cynical, I guess, in a why, it’s kind of my story too.
Honey, you’re 13, do you even know what love means?
Love is more than a feeling. It’s more than an attraction. It’s a journey, and it takes a while to get to the point of really being in love.
Take me for instance: I was in a relationship for 2 1/2 years, and at the time I really thought I loved him. We went through so much together, and we both helped each other out with so many things. And while the Relationship itself was great, it wasn’t the right thing for either of us.
So, a few days before Thanksgiving 2010, I broke up with him. Looking back on it, I realize that what I thought was love wasn’t really love. It was just an intense fondness.
Even though I wasn’t “in love” with him, the break-up still hurt. Yes, I cried. Yes, there was a time for a while when I wanted to get back together. Yes, my heart was broken even though I did the breaking up.
But, I made it through it. I moved on. And I realized that ending the Relationship was probably one of the best things I’ve done for myself.
You can call me crazy if you want, but it’s true.
Before, and during, the Relationship, I was the ‘quiet’ girl who didn’t know who she was. I filled my life with a guy, because I wanted acceptance; I wanted to define myself.
Not that the Relationship is over, I have discovered who I really am. I’m quiet, but am not afraid to say what’s on my mind. I realized also that a guy does NOT define who I am.
So, even though you have a broken-heart; even though you are hurting a lot right now, I hope you remember this.
Guys won’t always stay true; they won’t always love you for you.
If you stay true to yourself, and love you for who you are, life will be much easier.
Don’t let a guy define who you are.
Discover who you are.
Live your life.
Then, maybe, you can let a guy back in.
Honey, you’re 13. You don’t need to dress like your 25. You don’t need all that makeup. You are beautiful the way you are, and I know you don’t believe me now, but trust me, one day you will learn to appreciate yourself.
Honey, you’re 13. Don’t watch all those trashy shows that make you grow up too fast. Stay young while you can. Because once you grow up, you can’t go back. You can’t go back and undo the things you’ve been through, the things you’ve seen. Stay young. Please.